Self-love is where it all starts. According to the Beatles, "all you need is love". The thing is, it's hard to love anyone else honestly until you love yourself.
I doubt that you are narcissistic if you are reading this and trying to learn how to love yourself. Don't confuse this with narcissism.
take care of yourself |
set boundaries |
forgive yourself |
find a purpose |
stop trying to be someone else |
recognize your strengths |
know that you matter |
connect to your higher self |
The definition from Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Self-love is the love of oneself.
{In 1956, psychologist, and social philosopher Erick Fromm proposed that loving oneself is different from being arrogant, conceited or egocentric. He proposed that loving oneself means caring about oneself, taking responsibility for oneself, respecting oneself, and knowing oneself (e.g. being realistic and honest about one's strengths and weaknesses.) He proposed, further, that in order to be able to love another person, a person needs first to love oneself in this way.}
retrieved from Wikipedia. "Self-love - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia, Wikipedia N.p., n.d. Web. 4 Mar. 2015. <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-love>
The Art of Loving (1956) by Erich
Fromm.Harper & Row ISBN 978-0-06-091594-0.
Maybe you were taught how to apply love of self early on in your life but, I think most of us grew up comparing ourselves to others and thinking that we never quite make the grade. |
You will find this is especially true for women because our society is constantly telling us we are not good enough.
Men also try to turn themselves into something they are not in order to be what society thinks is the perfect male.
Start now. You have a right to be happy.
You can continue to self-improve but stop beating yourself up.
I have been working on this for so long. I have not come anywhere close to loving myself completely. It is worth the effort. There is no way to have a great third age if you cannot come to terms with this. It takes time to learn.
This quote started it all for me, back in the early 90's. Were I read this alludes me but, it was a "wake up call".
Garry Oldman said, "what other people think of me is none of my business."
"Wow...what awesome advice!"
What rituals are you doing to create more love of thyself?